Insecurity : The False Truth.

“the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare ur behind-the-scenes with everyone’s highlights reel.” – S. Furt

Insecurity is the state of being insecure with our own skin, mostly, because we start to compare ourselves to other people. I get insecure whenever I compare myself to other people whom I thought of as wealthier, prettier, smarter than me and when I get insecure, I get paralyzed. I start complaining and whining about why this and why that. I get jealous to other people's life and I start imagining what is it like to live other people's life. Thinking that other people is having more beautiful life than mine...and letting my life just pass me by. 

Insecurity is the deception that will definitely kill your talents and the great person you can become by being you. Insecurity is the constant false truth that will always whisper to your ears that you can't make it, you can't do it and other YOU CAN'Ts. Insecurity is when you let the external factors invading your internal being and destroying your true image. 

Everyone has their own struggles and their own life, we can't just generalize things by looking only to one factor without even bother to look what's happening behind the scene. We might get jealous of one person but if we dare to look beyond the source of our jealousy probably we won't be jealous anymore. We can't just jump into one conclusion without considering the other factors. That would be unfair wouldn't it. 

With that kind of perspective, hopefully we would have an open mind, a willingness to see what's really going and then, may it lead us to an understanding that, all of us come from the same point in life. A NOTHING POINT. BLANK. just like a white paper. Then life begins to roll and each of us experiencing things that will end up shaping us the way we are. But, you know why people are easily get intimidated, easily get insecure? because whether you realize it or not, there's some kind of scheme in this universe where everything and everyone at some point will try to bring you down and hinder you from your destiny and passion. WHY? because if only we realize what kind of potential we do have within us, we can change the course of the universe. 

Well, maybe this sounds a bit like a science fiction scheme, but along the history we have seen that those who made history were not always having a happy go lucky life, mostly have a very difficult life, the only thing that differs them is their determination not to give up easily on the hard stuffs. They all struggle with insecurities, but they fought back and they kept on going and changing the course of history. They didn't let any kind of intimidation and negative thoughts affecting their lives. 

The thing is, we often focus on the result more that the process that they needed to go through in order to get the result. Especially in nowadays generation where everyone want everything in an instant as if everything should happen in just a snap of finger, people tend to see only the RESULT without even bother to pay attention to the process while the process is the most important part to GET the result and KEEP the result.

It is easy for us to get insecure when we compare ourselves to everything and everyone around us, but if we dare to look beyond what we can see we might find something that each and every one of us has our own portion of struggles and our own journey in LIFE. we can't expect to be like Jennifer Lopez, Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt or David Beckham...WHY? because each of them has their own way in life and they also have their own struggles in life. We can't be Angelina Jolie as much as Angelina Jolie can't be us.

Whenever we get insecure and discourage just remember one thing, stop looking on what's in the outside and around you but look within you. Each of us has a pure soul inside, each of us has a hidden potential inside that's waiting to be unleashed, just keep on searching deep within and we shall see that once we have found who we really are and what we are meant to be, we will be at peace with ourselves and screw other people! you don't need them as a comparison but you need them as partners to walk with you in the journey of life. 

Make sure you remember this: you are special, you are loved, you are precious and you are never alone :)