Fear of The Unknown (part 1).

I think everyone would agree with me that the unknown would somehow give us a certain fear and unfortunately our future is part of the unknown.

Well, who knows about the future?  Even the best fortune teller couldn’t tell his/her own future.

I was sitting and talking with a friend during lunch time today. My friend told me a story about the colleagues in her previous company. They were paid so low and were not treated good. They wanted to get out from the company but then they didn’t because they were too afraid, WHAT IF they made the wrong decision, WHAT IF the new company is worse and they couldn’t get out because they had family to take care of, WHAT IF..., WHAT IF... and WHAT IF... – the point is, they were afraid of making decision because they were afraid of the unknown future and they were not going anywhere because of that.

Aren’t we familiar of the situation? We're afraid of making decisions because we're afraid of the unknown.

My friend and I, both of us are in the same condition where we are so tired of everything and wondering if we should hold on or simply let go. Sounds like a simple choice right? Yet, making a decision is not as easy as flipping a coin, it never is.

 
For an example, I have just turned down a good opportunity. I know if some people know about it, they would kill me and told me that I was stupid for making that decision. But anyhow, the decision was made and that’s it. Of course there were those “What-If” questions. What if I was making the wrong decision, what if it was my key to get away from my current situation, what if it was worse than my current situation, what if I was crazy for turning down such a good opportunity and need to see a psychiatrist (okay the last one was a bit too much :D).


However, the reason of why I turned down that opportunity was because I didn't feel the peace and somehow I just felt it didn't feel right. Okay, you might say that I'm not a psychic and that it might be just a feeling, TRUE, it might be just a feeling but...somehow, I trust my gut and it hasn't let me down so far (and hopefully it's not going to this time :D). 

I talked to some people before I made the decision. I talked to my parents, talk to my best friends, talk to God and talk to myself (yeap, you really need to know what do you really want before making a decision). I got different views from everyone, somewhat hoping that they would make the decision for me -- which is not going to happen since it's my life and my decision. I also wished that God would speak in an audible voice, telling me which decision to make -- and again, sometimes it doesn't work that way and that easy :D. So it was indeed a depressing moment. I had no clue about anything in the future or what kind of thing should i expect from each decision.


And what did I do?


I asked myself, was it really the thing that I really want, what were the considerations of each decision and what did my heart tell me? -- then, I made the decision and once I made it, I promised myself not to regret anything and prepared myself for the coming future of the decision and I made sure that I didn't make the decision based on my certain fear of something unknown but rather to a realistic consideration and my priority. 


Eliminating the element of fear of the unknown will help us to decide better, of course there is anticipation but, if we know what we really want and follow our heart, I believe we will be able to make the best decision...the anticipation is just another element that will help you to deal with the possible consequences of our decision. Don't give up before you even try something, if you think that it's worth it then go ahead and make the decision, don't fear the unknown because there will be something to learn in each decision we make :) 


Consider the WHAT-IFs but don't let it stop you from moving forward. Know what you really want and follow your heart and passion, that will lead you somewhere for sure. So embrace the unknown and have a great adventure ;)