The statement on the title of this post is what my Pastor used to say and I completely agree with him.
Either we realize it or not, we will somehow resemble ourselves with the people we are having a connection or relationship with. Especially with those in our inner circle, people whom we trust and people whom we let in to our life.
As a human being, we have the highest adaptive skill compared to other God's creations. It gives us the ability to quickly adjust ourselves into a new environment and situation as well as adjusting ourselves with the people around us. If we pay a close attention then we will realize that somehow our behavior will somehow "resemble" the behaviors of the people we are close with. For example, we might use the same idioms or words they're using, act like they act and even give the same reaction over certain things. In short words, we're becoming like them bit by bit or they will become like us, depends on whose influence is stronger :)
There's a verse in the bible that says like this: Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” (1 Cor 15:33) - this verse has been a reminder from God, He knows that as a human being we are very adaptive to the things and to the people around us, so He gave us these words. Be careful with whom you are associating with or be friends with because not everyone will help you to grow better :)
A good community will help us to be what we are meant to be, a good community will also encourage us to grow in our talent and believe in our great future. A good community consists of people who are growing together in good character, people who will encourage each other, taking care of each other and watching over each other. People who care enough about each other that they will advise and counsel each other out of love not out of condemnation or judgment.
To grow we need other people. As a friend once said, "No progress without learning, no learning without feedback." We need other people's feedback to grow and that can only be required if we are in a community or in a circle of friends. Not just mere feedback but we need a corrective, positive and encouraging feedback. The people we need to be with are those who care enough for us that they don't care if we might hate them because they have the courage to confront us with the truth when we do something stupid or wrong. The sad fact is, we often push such people away from our lives. We are too sensitive and too fragile to handle the corrections from other people even when it's for our own good.
The people we let in to our lives will somehow shape us, the contribution they're giving us is very important to our being. We can be a better or worse person because of them. If we continue to surround ourselves with negative people, we would end up living a negative life, we would never able to see something positive, but if we surround ourselves with positive and uplifting people then we will be able to reach our maximum potential.
It is very important to choose what kind of people we're letting in to our lives. DO NOT let anyone get too close to us easily because NOT everyone can handle us from a close distance. If we let anyone get closer to us easily, then there will be A GREATER CHANCE for them to hurt us because we're letting the WRONG people in to our lives. People who might not have the concern or care to take care of us and sometimes the people who would just take an advantage of us. Choose the people who care enough about us, people with the same vision who would walk and run the distance with us, people who will encourage us and believe in us, people who would not talk behind us but will love us just the way we are, people who have the courage to confront us when we do something wrong because they love us enough to see us change for the better, people who would constantly challenge us to be better every single day.
If you feel like your current relationship with the people that you call as "friends" is intoxicating and somehow not getting you into a better life, then maybe you want to reconsider it. It's not that we leave our friends in time of need and be with them only in good times, it's not about that at all. It's about choosing carefully the people whom will influence us in our lives. We can meet many people, we can build an acquittance with people but we SHOULD let only THE CHOSEN ONES to come closer and stay to influence us for the better :) - we can be there for other people to build them and encourage them but we also need other people to do the same for us. Last but not least, if we want to have good friends, first, we need to become one :) - have a good day people!
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