The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.

“you might be the best apple on the tree but still, there will be people who doesn’t like apple.”

In life, we can’t please everyone. That’s for sure. We can do our best but there will still be haters around us, sometimes there will be people whose existence are simply to give us a hard time to shape us and help us to grow. Although it’s so darn hard to be grateful for them sometimes, but we need to be grateful for their presence because with their talent in being annoying, they help us to be a better person :)

For example, I have met people who simply love to talk about other people they don’t like behind their back (well, who knows if they are actually love to talk about everyone behind their back :p) – and it’s not about the good and nice things of course. I call them “the secret haters”. Those who will always find your flaws and talk about that to other people. They don’t have enough guts to confront you face to face but keep bad mouthing you behind your back. Sometimes, you don’t even need to do them wrong because they just simple hate you for who you are. Personally, I don’t like such people and I always keep my distance from them. 

How to deal with such people? Just completely ignore them, their opinions have no significance in your life. They’re just haters. No matter what you do, they will just hate you. So, surround yourself with the right people. Find people who knows the real you and still love you the same, people who care about you and your future, people who are not afraid to confront you when you are wrong and those who will encourage you to be what you need to be, those right people wouldn’t even care about those who talk behind your back because they know you better. When it comes to “the secret haters”, you don’t have to prove anything to them. Just be yourself and let other people justify the facts they see from you – such people will teach you about patience and about having a big and forgiving heart. Your reaction is the key to everything you’re facing J - thus, think carefully and react wisely.

One wise thing that my Pastor taught us is that there will always be THE GOOD, THE BAD and THE UGLY everywhere we go. There will always be people who are labeled as Extra Grace Required. Those whose presence are toxicating and annoying. Yet they are there to help us grow, to help us to be better. Sometimes they are there to remind us not to act like what they do, sometimes they are there to help us reflecting on ourselves and improving ourselves to be better. When we have gone through the hardships we would see that we are a better and stronger person. Those people may be around for a while or for a length of time and gone after we have learned what we have to learn. And who knows, we might miss them eventually :p

So, never try to please everyone, you’ll only get exhausted because it’s an impossible task to do. Instead, maintain the relatioship you have with the right people, which are the ones who love you as who you are. Be blessed! :)