Singlehood.

I am single and I have been enjoying myself so far except for the fact that the people around me are quite annoying enough. I believe those who have been living in singlehood would understand what I mean.

There’s nothing wrong in being single, of not having a boyfriend or a husband. What I found as wrong is the society who thinks that it’s wrong. I think I’d rather have a late marriage than having a marriage that would drive me insane because I choose the wrong person just to fullfill society’s expectation of me.

I have quite a number of male friends that I can confide in, that I can trust, that I can get crazy with, those who love me enough to let me be me and those whom I love with my whole heart although I don’t have romantic relationship with them. And so far, I’m content with that. (besides I also have great female friends).

Don’t get me wrong.

It’s not that I don’t open my eyes to every possibilities I encounter. Those who know me, knows that I am a hardcore lover and I always love without hesitation. I have fell in love with several men before, I have been in a close to more than friends relationship with several men, I have been feeling miserable because of love and got all those painful side of romance relationship. Some leave marks that stay for quite a long time. Even so, I haven’t given up on love. Only, I have decided not to put my happiness solely on my status.

Those experiences have taught me to carefully guard my heart and not to just put it on the table because the drama in a relationship can leave you exhausted and tired. It can worn you out. Those experiences have also taught me to really give my time and effort to someone who is really worth it. To someone who thinks that you are worth of his time and effort as well.

Charlie Brown said it well, 'Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.' And nothing is time wasting quite like giving time to someone who’s not even worth it in the first place, because if you use your time to do something else, you would have done many things instead.

While you are still single, there are a lot of things you can do. Don’t get stuck in the mindset that no one loves you just because you’re still single. HEY! There is actually a lot of people who loves you and waiting to be loved by you. LOVE is not limited on the relationship between a man and a woman but LOVE is an universal language that can be understood by everyone. Don’t waste your love on people who only knows how to take granted of it but share your love on people who really need it.

When you give and sow love in the right place you’ll be amazed on the amount of love you’ll get back.

Don’t put the worth of yourself on your status, when you’re still single it doesn’t mean that your worth is less that the people who has a spouse. NO, it doesn’t work that way. The fact that you were born into this world should give you the idea that you are worth to be in this world, you are worth to live and you are worth to be who you are. Nothing should ever change that fact. YOU ARE WORTHY JUST BY BEING YOU and you DON’T NEED ANYONE ELSE to VALIDATE YOUR EXISTENCE.

Do something you love, create, dream and make it happen. Be happy, be yourself and be grateful. If the time is right, the right guy will come and if the right guy is not coming then don’t worry, the value of your life is not measured by who you’re with but by what you’ve done to contribute.

And if you should love and like someone, why not love and like yourself because in the end, the one person who will always be with you is yourself. Enjoy yourself, pamper yourself and treat yourself right. You can never love other people if can’t even love yourself completely.

So, screw what people say about being single. I’m single, I’m happy and I’m living myself to the fullest.