for the last few days I've been watching, wondering and amazed at the fact of how ironic humans can be and how their life can be such a contradictions. some of the things that i found make me loathe several people (i just can't help it) and when i reflect back on myself i loathe myself for the same reason as well.
humans in their nature i found, like to be self-righteous in many ways. we often think highly of ourselves that we think other people should follow our certain set of values or else they would not be fit to be in our life and sadly, even us, ourselves often fail to follow the values. it's the contradiction that easily found in our daily life, we hate the people doing to us the things that we love to do to other people either consciously or unconsciously.
for example, people told me that they hate to be taken granted and to be used by other people, but then they take granted and used other people for their own benefit at some point. people told me that they hate people who lie at them and in the same time, they often lie to other people as well. don't worry, i did that too. sometimes i end up doing something that i don't like other people do to me. that's the irony. we do things that we don't like from other people.
the contradictions of some people in their life never ceased to amaze me, for example, someone talked to me about his friend (which is also my friend) in a way that i found as very low. he said that no one would ever want to be friend with this guy if we're not his friends. OKAY such a high thought on yourself, honey. the thing is, if he doesn't want to be friends with this guy he doesn't have to, no one pushes him to be friends with this guy and if he finds that this guy is annoying then why should he stay? no one asked him too and secondly, this guy often treat his friends including this particular friend who talked behind his back and this particular friend who talked behind his back never seem to object when this guy paid things for him, he never seemed trying to even pay back or did the same thing to this guy. you talked about someone behind their back, complaining because they are your friend and STILL sticking around having all the benefits of being their friend. that is SO LOW.
humans drag the drama onto themselves. that's for sure. the example above is one thing. we linger on people we hate just to gain benefit from them and then talking about them behind their back, complaining as if they complicate our lives and make a drama out of it. rather than trying to solve it in a conversation we choose to complicate things by assuming and by thinking that we're to tired to even say what's on our mind because everything has taken up all of our energy. YEAH. in fact, we're just unable to confront our problems and then, we start to get the spotlight on us and telling other people about the drama, making a scene and putting ourselves as a victim. FAIR PLAY, huh? :p
some people even thought that they have tried to communicate what they have in mind while doing it in a wrong way and when the other party can't grasp what they're trying to say...they blame the other party. "they can't understand me!", "they always get the wrong impression!" - DANG IT people! as far as i know, if a message is wrongly received then the failure is on the messenger or the person who conveys the message. so before blaming other people because they misunderstood us, why don't we have a moment to think, have we conveyed the message to them in the right way? communication is a tricky situation, it requires us to first understand the person talking to us in order for us to say what we meant to say in the right way and understandable for the person to get what we mean and then give their respond. i think it goes the same in the advertising world, you need to know to whom you're advertising in order for your advertisement to work. you need to use the language of your target people for them to understand what you're trying to say about the things you're advertising. it's the basic thing of communication. understand to be understood, not vice versa.
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